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Question your relationship

31/5/2017

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You are in love. You feel butterflies and all the cells of your body breathe for the beloved one. Life has a new meaning. It seems that you don’t need anything else except the one you love. You are generously expressing deep feelings of love to each other and pure happiness radiates all around you.
I love you.
I can’t live without you.
You are the love of my life.
I have waited my whole life for you.
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I want to live with you till the end of time.
The love that you feel and live so passionately is, in that period, the center of your universe. There is no reason for you to feel differently. There isn’t anyone or anything that can alter the magical world of love that revolves around you, within you. You live in that moment like there is no tomorrow. Slowly and quietly you are thinking and planning a future together. You can’t imagine the rest of your life without your most beloved one. In time your world starts changing. Your love is shifting from the magical world to the real life. Although the butterflies are slowly disappearing, if you two are the right ones for each other, the feelings will go deeper and stronger.
Your relationship will get its authenticity day by day. Both of you will contribute to the stronger relationship which will grow, develop, and refine more and more as both of you keep on giving each other more love, compassion, and empowerment. The relationship helps you see yourself in as many shapes possible, reaching increasingly to the deepest layers of your being. When you're near the right person, you feel supported to do and be everything you want. Because true love means primarily the freedom to be yourself.
But it may happen that your relationship will not evolve in the direction you wanted. You may feel it is stagnating or even worse. While in the relationship, one morning you may wake up to find that it doesn’t fulfill you and it’s dragging you down. You may even reach a point when it becomes very important for you to realize the truth about what you feel, to recognize exactly where you are in the current relationship. It will help if you ask yourself: Does this relationship help me evolve? Does it allow me to express myself freely? Is this exactly what I want? Do I feel at ease in it? Does it require too many compromises that put me constantly on an alternate plan? Asking yourself these questions will be a good test for your relationship. It will give you the opportunity to make some changes before it is too late. Yes, the butterflies were there at the beginning and all the love- words were meant honestly and truly. Maybe you got lost a bit on the path. Maybe you didn’t invest enough into your relationship. Even though you face constant confusion, uncertainty or tears you might still be in it if you don’t question your relationship. By answering to the above questions you can find the way for your relationship to evolve in the right direction. You may as well realize that you need to put an end. Who would like to stay in a relationship that doesn’t give space for the personal growth? That doesn’t allow free self expression? This isn’t a healthy love anymore.
Real love should never come in the way of the individual’s transformation and personal growth. It shouldn’t be about putting limitations to your partners. If you feel any barrier, test your relationship. Be honest with yourself. It is for your own good. In a healthy couple you shouldn’t lose your personal identity, but evolve along with your partner.
8 Comments
Sinisa Benkovic
31/5/2017 16:52:18

Nice one, indeed and agreed with. If we're incomplete, we'll always search for somebody to complete us. If, after unspecified period of relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we'll tend to blame the other side. Wish, or urge, to try with somebody 'more promising' rears its cute head. It may be repeated until we realise that while a partner can improve our life, we alone are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us. To believe otherwise is delusional solid ground for most certain failure of every relationship we enter. Or, in the words of famous French poet, "Bewahret einander Vor Herzleid Denn kurz ist die Zeit Die ihr bei-sammen seid" :-) Please keep on writing, kind regards.

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Nico
31/5/2017 19:51:41

Thank you Sinisa for your encouragement and for taking the time to give such a valuable comment. Your words are a perfect addition to my message. As I mentioned in the previous blog, we need first to learn to dance by ourselves to be able to dance in two. Enjoy the dance!:-)

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Ivana
2/6/2017 20:50:28

So, so true Nico!!! Thimbs up for this!!!

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Nico
3/6/2017 10:08:24

Thank you, Ivana! Glad to see you agree:-)

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Josipa
2/6/2017 20:51:24

Very true. We can't be happy and complete in a relationship if we haven't got yet to the state of kind accepting us and partner the way how he or she is...expecting that other person will fulfill all our gaps is a weakness and lazyness in a way. Every person in our life has a role to teach us about our good and bad sides. But this is only possible if we are willing to accept the message.
Thanks for the expiring readings, excellent and mature, as always.

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Nico
3/6/2017 10:11:04

Thank you, Josipa! Love is magical and necessary, we just need to deal with it in a healthy manner so that it can last and fulfil our life in such a special way.

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Devendra Pokharna link
6/7/2017 10:37:46

Usually first impression coupled with sub conscious dreams take one to fly high in relationship,.
Being on some equal footing of understanding and concepts are developing in developing countries.

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Nico
6/7/2017 11:24:35

Yes, I do agree with you Devendra.

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