Question your relationship
You’re in love. You feel butterflies, and every cell of your body breathes for your loved one. Life has a new meaning. You don’t need anything other than the one you love. You generously express deep feelings of love for each other, and pure happiness radiates all around.
“I love you.”
“I can’t live without you.”
“You are the love of my life.”
“I’ve waited my whole life for you.”
“You make me feel alive.”
“With you, I am the better version of myself.”
“There are no words to describe my love for you.”
“Now that I have found you, I can’t live without you.”
“I didn’t know what love is until I found you.”
“I want to live with you till the end of time.”
The love that you feel and live so passionately is, at the moment, the center of your universe. There is no reason for you to feel differently. There isn’t anyone or anything that can alter the magic of love that revolves around you and within you. Slowly and quietly, you are thinking and planning a future together. You can’t imagine the rest of your life without your loved one.
Over time, your world begins to change. Your love changes from the magical world to real life. Although the butterflies fade, the feelings will become more profound if you two are meant to be.
Your relationship will become increasingly solid as each day passes. You will both contribute to it, and your relationship will grow, develop, and evolve as you give more love, compassion, and commitment.
True love means, first of all, the freedom to be yourself. The relationship exposes you to many forms, shades, and tones, reaching more and more to the deepest layers of your being. When you are with someone special, you feel supported, wanted, needed, and considered.
However, your relationship may not evolve in the desired direction. You may feel stagnant or worse. You might wake up one morning and think that the relationship is no longer fulfilling, pulling you down. You may even reach a point where it becomes imperative for you to realize the truth about how you feel and see the need to recognize where you are in this relationship.
It will help if you ask yourself: Does this relationship help me evolve? Does it allow me to express myself freely? Is that exactly what I want? I feel at ease? Am I the one who makes all the compromises and changes all my plans?
Asking these questions will be a good test of your relationship. It will allow you to focus and consider making any changes before too late. Yes, the butterflies were there initially, and all whispered sweet nothings were sincere. The path might look a little different now from when you started. Perhaps you haven’t invested enough of yourself in this relationship. Despite constant confusion, uncertainty, or tears, you may still be able to save it if you begin questioning your relationship before it is too far gone.
By answering the above questions, you may find a way for your relationship to get back on track and move in the right direction. You may also realize that it should end. Who wants to stay in a relationship that doesn’t allow personal growth and suppresses free self-expression? That is no longer a healthy love.
Real love should never hinder the transformation and personal development of an individual. It shouldn’t be about putting limitations on your partners. If you feel there is a barrier, test the relationship. Be honest with yourself. It’s for your good. In a healthy and stable relationship, a couple should not lose their identity but evolve while nourishing their love.
Nice one, indeed and agreed with. If we're incomplete, we'll always search for somebody to complete us. If, after unspecified period of relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we'll tend to blame the other side. Wish, or urge, to try with somebody 'more promising' rears its cute head. It may be repeated until we realise that while a partner can improve our life, we alone are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us. To believe otherwise is delusional solid ground for most certain failure of every relationship we enter. Or, in the words of famous French poet, "Bewahret einander Vor Herzleid Denn kurz ist die Zeit Die ihr bei-sammen seid" :-) Please keep on writing, kind regards.
Thank you Sinisa for your encouragement and for taking the time to give such a valuable comment. Your words are a perfect addition to my message. As I mentioned in the previous blog, we need first to learn to dance by ourselves to be able to dance in two. Enjoy the dance!:-)
So, so true Nico!!! Thimbs up for this!!!
Thank you, Ivana! Glad to see you agree:-)
Very true. We can't be happy and complete in a relationship if we haven't got yet to the state of kind accepting us and partner the way how he or she is...expecting that other person will fulfill all our gaps is a weakness and lazyness in a way. Every person in our life has a role to teach us about our good and bad sides. But this is only possible if we are willing to accept the message.
Thank you, Josipa! Love is magical and necessary, we just need to deal with it in a healthy manner so that it can last and fulfil our life in such a special way.
Usually first impression coupled with sub conscious dreams take one to fly high in relationship,.
Yes, I do agree with you Devendra.
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