I know. You might think I’ve gone crazy by trying to make this kind of analogy. But let me explain what crossed my mind. When one stops eating meat there will seldom be comments from people around. This happens in countries where culture or religion support eating meat. While some comments are funny, others may be annoying. Some people will repeatedly try to convince a vegetarian to go back to eating meat. Their opinion is that it is healthier and I am sure their intention is good. But, will they succeed? Not really. One makes a choice and will stick to it.
While being vegetarian is a choice, being homosexual is a given. There should be a big STOP to anyone trying or thinking to convert a homosexual person into a heterosexual one. It’s a lost battle from the start.
After we are born, we eat what we are offered; some food we like, some we don't. Picky or not, in time we choose what we want to eat. One decides to be a vegetarian for different kind of reasons. Although nowadays there are more and more vegetarians, even vegans, one still has to face questions and comments from almost everyone around. Explanations do exist. One of those is that you don't want to support animal killing. A majority of people who question the reasons behind your choice will accept your explanations. Some of them will try to convert one, but in general, they will not force it too much.
Regarding a homosexual, one is born as such. There is no real explanation when people question about it. One doesn't actually know why he or she is homosexual. People who are open-minded and tolerant will not interfere with this. They will just accept someone's orientation as they would accept one’s food preference. Many others will make one feel that it is wrong. Others will try to convert him or her. If anyone ever thought this is possible, I dare to say there is no such possibility. There is at least a chance that one can perhaps convert a vegetarian to eating meat again, especially if the person is not very determined. But not so with a homosexual person. It happens that a gay person was or is in some kind of relationship with the opposite gender. The reasons behind it are multiple. But is he or she entirely happy? Is this the kind of life they should live? Is the society giving the freedom so that anyone can express freely their orientation? Unfortunately, not always is the case. Things are slowly changing though. You see, a determined vegetarian will not be able even to touch meat again. In certain circumstances, a homosexual person that isn't strong enough to face eventual prejudices might consider as a better choice to pretend to be heterosexual. Isn't it ironic?
I used the analogy above as a way to underline what’s behind my thoughts. I know I am repeating myself, but it is the core message. Being vegetarian is a choice, being homosexual is something that one is born with. One might not be even aware of it for a long time, as being heterosexual is what everyone presumes and expects. But sooner or later one comes to feel it. One can’t change it, but he or she deserves to live life to the fullest as anyone else. Let their homosexuality be expressed freely and let them enjoy love and life in their own way, disregarding what others might think. Why should anyone be judged?! Why does anyone need to give an explanation when there simply isn’t one?!
Think. Try. Understand. Accept. Allow everyone to live and love freely.
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"How is it
that everything must
begin and end with you?
There you are,
perfuming the world with your scent.
Have you made a deal
with the moon so that you can linger
when she tapers off?
And what about the wind?
Even when he has been scolded
and is sitting in a corner, there you are,
my calm before the storm.
Despite the inevitable destruction
and my ruin, there you are again,
my calm after the storm.
I really must know:
'How is it
that there was never you
until there was
and then all was you?“
- Kamand Kojouri
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