“I can’t take it anymore. I feel awful. I think I am going crazy. There is no help for me. My life has no meaning.” Painful, right? Especially when a dear friend is telling you this. And, not only once but with an increased regularity. The least I can do is to take time to listen, figure out what is behind her feelings and cheer her up. Yet, no matter how much I am trying to help a friend of mine, I am less and less convinced that I am not making any difference. I have no words to express how sad it makes me. I know her for many years now. As the years have passed, life served her often lots of negative moments and experiences. She has the purest heart a person could have and a that’s more of a reason for me to think that it is not fair that she had to suffer so much, over and over. People often tried to make her feel helpless. But she didn’t totally break down and I really wish to believe that she would not this time or any time in the future. Why was she chosen to be hurt so often?
Why doesn’t the universe take a pause on her? I know that some people would say that she is attracting all bad things, like some kind of bad karma. Whatever is the reason, I know that she is the last person that deserves this. Her heart is too fragile. You see, having a pure heart doesn’t necessarily make you strong. On the contrary, it makes you sensitive to every bad word or action of others. I know I can’t protect her. Nobody can. I am repeatedly telling her that the reality is not so gloomy as she feels it. It doesn’t seem to help as she sees what she feels.
She knows how life has been treating her so far. She has survived, moved on and became stronger. And, that she doesn’t see it. She lived through all the bad comments from people around her and kept going with her life despite their criticism. She doesn’t see it either. She managed to make a proper living, acquired a good education, a stable job where she is successful and appreciated. She does not see those positives either. She is in a good physical state and her body looks like from the cover of a magazine. Yet she sees only the imperfections in her. Yes, life wasn’t good to her at times but she managed to keep above all, her good heart. What frustrates me the most is that she is not allowing herself to be happy. That is what she is doing now to herself. She has chosen to see all the bad things that happened to her and became blind to all good ones. She is not appreciating herself. She sees herself through what would be a perceived view of others. All the bad things that happened to her have the weight of concrete while all the wonderful ones don’t weight more than a feather. I feel frustrated sometimes that I don’t find the proper ways to show her how strong she really is. But my words don’t have any power as she doesn’t see and feel them the way they should. Her mind is stopping her from seeing what the reality is. Yes, life was hard on her. That made her become sensitive towards anything that evolves around her.
Life isn’t fair sometimes, but it is on us to find a way to deal with it. We find strength when we manage to stay above all the barriers that we encounter in life. But often we tend to miss seeing that. My friend is depressed right now, but definitely not crazy. She doesn’t see that there is help, but it surely exists. She may feel awful, but things will change. She feels that she can’t take it anymore but I know she is now stronger than ever. She thinks her life has no meaning, but I know she knows it does.
Yes, life will always bring good and bad things. But it is on us to manage the satisfaction and burden appropriately. When we feel hopeless, helpless, there is one thing that we can do. One step. One decision. We need to believe in and decide to ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE HAPPY. Allow ourselves to live. Everything starts from there. The moment the decision is made, a spark in our head will cause all the necessary reactions that will follow and show us the way.
Make that decision now, dear friend, allow your good heart to be happy. I will be there, watching you, being happy with you.
Life teaches us lessons continuously.
Do we pay attention and acknowledge what we learn? Do we strive to improve ourselves and hence our lives, relationships and by this positively influence everyone around us?
Life's an ongoing process.
We should consciously stop sometimes to reflect upon the situations we find ourselves in and the experiences life gives us. Could we have done things differently? What did we learn from these? Should we change something, and achieve a different outcome next time?
Do you want to change your life...
but don't know where to begin? Are you in an unhappy relationship? Do you feel lonely? Can you imagine what your life would be like, if you discovered what makes you feel fully alive? Are you stuck in a job you don't love? What's stopping you from getting the life that you’re dreaming of?
Life's a roller-coaster.
Let's transform it into genuine fun, by finding and offering only the good within us. As odd as it sounds, it takes a little effort to be a good person. It demands self-awareness. It requires perseverance. You must keep an open mind about things and develop an acceptance of everything that is different, even if you don't fully understand it. Though at times it requires nothing more than just an honest smile.
LESSONS IN LIFE
"In hope of a world, that does not celebrate the fake & the cold
In hope of a world where true emotions can be uphold
In hope of a world where truth is told
In hope of the world where sugar coated abuses are not sold
In hope of a world that does not force you to fit in & fold
In hope of a world where tears are allowed to unfold
You are not told to fake happy when your heart can no longer hold
In the hope of a world that doesn’t go numb & cold,
While faking positivity & not being bold
In hope of that world where you & I can be true to our core
We are not judged for being human
And not expected to be a bot, running on a computer code
Let the beauty of true emotions and the warmth of real unfold
Sweet, sour, bitter, happy, sad, high, low, cold
Sincere bonds and true connects
Let us not turn the world into a fake emotion(less) zone"
by Vanashree Yadav