Allow yourself to be happy

“I can’t take it anymore. 
I feel awful. 
I think I am going crazy. 
There is no help for me. 
My life has no meaning.” 
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Painful words, right? Especially when they repeatedly come from someone dear to us. The least we can do is to take time to listen, figure out what is behind their feelings and try to cheer them up. 

I have known my friend for many years now. Life often served her with many negative moments and experiences. She has the purest heart a person could have, and that’s more of a reason for me to think that it is unfair that she has to suffer so much. People often tried to make her feel helpless. But she didn’t break down completely; I want to believe she would not. Not this time or any time in the future. Why was she chosen to be hurt so often? 

Why doesn’t the universe spare her? Some people would say that she is attracting all evil things, like some bad karma. Whatever the reason, I know she doesn’t deserve this. No one does. Her heart is too fragile, and she’s sensitive to every lousy word or action of others. I know I can’t protect her. Nobody can. I repeatedly tell her that the reality is not as gloomy as she feels, but my words don’t reach her. 

She knows how life has dealt with her so far. She survived all the obstacles, but she isn’t aware. She survived all the nasty comments from people around her and continued. She doesn’t see it either. She lives decently and has a good education and a stable job where she thrives and appreciates it. He doesn’t see this positive side either. She is attractive and in good physical condition but sees only flaws in herself. 

Yes, life wasn’t good to her at times, but she managed to keep, above all, her good heart. What frustrates me the most is that she is not allowing herself to be happy. She has chosen to see all the bad things that happened to her and became blind to all the good ones. She does not appreciate herself. She sees herself through what would be a perceived view of others. All the bad things that happened to her are solid rock, while all the wonderful ones feel like a feather. I don’t find the proper ways to tell her how strong she is. But my words don’t have any power. Her mind is stopping her from seeing what the reality is. Yes, life was hard on her. 

Life isn’t fair, but it is on us to find a way to deal with it. We find strength when we stay above all the barriers we encounter in life. But often, we tend to miss seeing that. My friend is depressed right now but not crazy. She doesn’t see that there is help, but it indeed exists. She may feel awful, but things will change. She thinks she can’t take it anymore, but I want to believe she is now more powerful than ever. She thinks her life has no meaning, but I know it does.

Yes, life will always bring good and bad things. But it is on us to manage the satisfaction and burden appropriately. When we feel hopeless and helpless, there is one thing that we can do. One step. One decision. We need to believe in and decide to ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE HAPPY. Allow ourselves to live. Everything starts from there. The moment we make that decision, we will see the way.

Make that decision now, dear friend, and allow your good heart to be happy. I will be here, watching you. Happy with you.
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