Being blonde was trendy for so many years. Maybe it still is. I was blonde for so many years and I was in love with this hair color. It came also with the advantage of being blonde; that I could always use it as an excuse for any guff that I was doing. Still, I did some minor changes from time to time. I was playing with its shades. One day I decided to mix two shades (blonde and magenta) to get a different look but still planning to stay within the blonde tones. Despite my friend’s warning, I went for yet a different mix and my long blonde hair turned out not so blonde anymore. It was a mix of many different shades of brown, blonde, copper and red. My reaction? I laughed. I even surprised my friend and myself by my feeling which was in reality a genuine one. I felt amused. With professional help, the damage was corrected the day after. I wasn’t a blonde anymore though! My hair had to be covered with copper color. Final result? I loved it and, loved myself even more than I loved being blonde. No more excuses on the blonde’s account though! But yet, I possessed that color of hair for which I soon felt and realized that it reflected my personality even better. The mistake turned out to be a positive change for me. Also, I learned from my mistake: when doing major changes, consult professional help first:-).
'We learn from our mistakes’ we use to say or hear from others so often. And yet we tend to be so critical when people do mistakes. Sometimes we are really hard on ourselves. Actually some mistakes are often repeated. But what if that mistake was necessary? What if we wouldn’t be where we are now if that specific mistake or a chain of them wouldn’t have been made? It is highly improbable that one would go through life without making mistakes. Yes, I do agree, we should learn from them and try not to repeat them. Yet, shouldn’t we try to see things differently as well?
What if there is a good thing in every bad thing that happens? This is a kind of ‘sport’ that I am practicing for such a long time now that it has become part of my DNA, so to speak. Yes, no matter how hard the situation may seem, how big the mistake’s consequences could be, I always try to see the good in it. Is it autosuggestion? May be. Am I forcing myself in influencing things to make sure I see a good side, even when it seems that there isn’t one? Probably. But what if all these mistakes were necessary in the first place? Does it feel good to see at least a small good thing in a the big tragedy caused by a mistake? Yes. It gives hope. It gives you the strength to carry on. The past can’t be undone. The present is now and I like to call it a mistake free. Mistakes are always a thing of the past. We categorize them as such only after they were made. Sometimes we can have a hunch that what we are doing may be is a mistake, but if we would be really convinced we wouldn’t do it. Don’t overwhelm yourself with regrets. Don’t lose your energy on: What was in my mind? Why did I do it? Why wasn’t I smarter? Why was I so naive? Why didn’t I think thoroughly? Etc.
Mistakes are definitely a past thing. So let’s leave them in the past. Let’s focus on the future.
“Life is all about evolution. What looks like a mistake to others has been a milestone in my life. Even if people have betrayed me, even if my heart was broken, even if people misunderstood or judged me, I have learned from these incidents. We are human and we make mistakes, but learning from them is what makes the difference.”*
*Quote by Amisha Patel https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/a/amishapate681516.html?src=t_mistake
"How is it
that everything must
begin and end with you?
There you are,
perfuming the world with your scent.
Have you made a deal
with the moon so that you can linger
when she tapers off?
And what about the wind?
Even when he has been scolded
and is sitting in a corner, there you are,
my calm before the storm.
Despite the inevitable destruction
and my ruin, there you are again,
my calm after the storm.
I really must know:
'How is it
that there was never you
until there was
and then all was you?“
- Kamand Kojouri
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