There is a well known Croatian singer, Massimo, singing an old but famous song “Zamisli život u ritmu muzike za ples”(which conveys its meaning closest to the original as Imagine life in the rhythm of music for dancing). I must admit that even though I have listened to this song many times, until I heard it precisely last New Year’s Eve I did not realize the depth of its meaning. Yes! Just imagine, life to be a dance with different kind of rhythms depending on what music is playing in the background. Sometimes we may dance alone and that’s OK, as some songs are simply meant to be danced like that. Practice! Don’t stop! It’s your dance!
But there are times when we need a partner to follow each others rhythm and with practice, we create a new synergy. It may happen that the partner will step on our feet and we may get angry and stop dancing or we can smile and simply move on, as it’s the music that counts. Practice, Patience, Tolerance, Acceptance and Confidence! After giving it your best and if you feel it still doesn’t work well, it’s OK to stop. You might consider trying it with another partner. But you might need to dance first alone for some time to make sure your rhythm isn’t messed up.
Sometimes we dance in a group and it’s in those moments that we share smiles, energy and joy with friends and family. Well, in group dances lots of chaos may happen- at times you might not be able to comprehend the rules or it might be a leader that gets everyone to follow him, sometimes you might blame someone else for stepping on your shoe or you might not say anything because you don’t dare, but in general from the distance it looks like really fun. And it’s OK as well, just make sure you enjoy the music!
But what can we do when we are dancing alone a dance for two? We can put the arms around ourselves, close the eyes and imagine whomever we want next to us. We are allowed to feel sad or nostalgic and even cry. We can even get the courage to invite somebody to dance right that moment or for a future time. We can also look up at the sky expressing our hope and believe that next time we won’t be dancing alone. Please don’t be so sad, dancing alone has its magic too.
One important rule: in order to be good dancers in a team of two or more, we need to master dancing alone. If you aren’t sure, you can start now. Turn on the music, start dancing and let all emotions flow freely through your mind and heart. Your body will find its own rhythm. The best one is the one you can feel when the music comes from within. It’s your music, your dance. It won’t be always the same, the basic notes and steps will never change, but the moves may vary based on what you allow yourself to experience.
Whatever the case, please, never stop dancing to the music of your heart!
"How is it
that everything must
begin and end with you?
There you are,
perfuming the world with your scent.
Have you made a deal
with the moon so that you can linger
when she tapers off?
And what about the wind?
Even when he has been scolded
and is sitting in a corner, there you are,
my calm before the storm.
Despite the inevitable destruction
and my ruin, there you are again,
my calm after the storm.
I really must know:
'How is it
that there was never you
until there was
and then all was you?“
- Kamand Kojouri
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